Whether we like it or not, we cannot avoid the day when we will all retire from our job and come back home for ever..From the next day, you have what you have craved for every day of your working life..don't you recall the longing for being able to take off for days and do just nothing? Now that day had dawned..rather ironically, the sun has set on your active career and dawned on your leisure days..no more hurry, no expectations of performance, no targets to achieve,no routine to follow. You can wake up at midday if you please, miss breakfast, take a stroll or not, enjoy a leisurely beauty bath and literally think of nothing. All this is real if you have the correct attitude..you can become cynical, sulk all day thinking that no one values your worth anymore, or demand attention for all the work you have put in over the years..it's a choice you have to make to make your retired years happy, peaceful and bearable.
I have been almost retired from 2010 although I officially retired in 2006 ..sounds contradictory no?let me explain..I had to attend to my daughter's first delivery immediately after my retirement in 2006 .i was overjoyed and thanked God for making it all so timely and workable..then came along another grandchild and after that I started to work again..giving it up whenever the family needed me..since 2010 I haven't worked at all..but have been extremely busy being of use to my children and my husband and the home. There is so much to be doneto run a home, to maintain the balance, manage the finances and the delicate needs of all the members of the family, many of which is not discussed outside the family.also I have found time to visit and worship at temples near and far away, learn a lot more slogans,do my ritual poojas twice a week, tend my garden,go for my morning and evening walks in the terrace which is also the time I get to communicate and exchange pleasantries with my neighbors..I enjoy browsing the Internet where I discover a lot of interesting things..now again duty has beckoned me to attend to my little granddaughter, born after a wait of 8 years..again I count my blessing..this trip has given me a chance to do some gardening, watch some great TV shows which have shown me new ways to entertain and educate my grd kids in art and craft.they have also taught me new recipes to cook for the family..I am reminded of the days when we brought up our own kids when I seethe antics of my grand kids...this I believe is the time we get to shape and mould the minds and bodies of our grand kids, to understand our children better, to see and feel happy about how well our children are shaping their lives..it is a revelation when I seethattheydont make the mistakes we made..they have learnt what not to do in life and in a marriage..that's very comforting..
If unfortunately , one cannot be adjusting and forgiving , it will be difficult to understand, connect to and reach out to our children as we grow older. No one really wants to hurt you or is deliberately disrespectful. It is in our perception of things, our belief of things. We have to be determined to be happy. We have to resolve and practice the art of tolerance , non judgment and non interference,,at the same time be as helpful as we can. I assure you , we will have the most glorious retired years, golden old age and the most doting children and grand children. We may however, gently chide or point out wrong deeds , no harm..but has to be gentle and without rancour or rage.Anger and bitterness are to be totally done away with..more prayers and meditation and exercise are the things to do. Eating less, sleeping more, cultivating good conversation,regular mild exercise and routine household chores will fill up the day..
Let's raise a toast to happy retirement.
I have been almost retired from 2010 although I officially retired in 2006 ..sounds contradictory no?let me explain..I had to attend to my daughter's first delivery immediately after my retirement in 2006 .i was overjoyed and thanked God for making it all so timely and workable..then came along another grandchild and after that I started to work again..giving it up whenever the family needed me..since 2010 I haven't worked at all..but have been extremely busy being of use to my children and my husband and the home. There is so much to be doneto run a home, to maintain the balance, manage the finances and the delicate needs of all the members of the family, many of which is not discussed outside the family.also I have found time to visit and worship at temples near and far away, learn a lot more slogans,do my ritual poojas twice a week, tend my garden,go for my morning and evening walks in the terrace which is also the time I get to communicate and exchange pleasantries with my neighbors..I enjoy browsing the Internet where I discover a lot of interesting things..now again duty has beckoned me to attend to my little granddaughter, born after a wait of 8 years..again I count my blessing..this trip has given me a chance to do some gardening, watch some great TV shows which have shown me new ways to entertain and educate my grd kids in art and craft.they have also taught me new recipes to cook for the family..I am reminded of the days when we brought up our own kids when I seethe antics of my grand kids...this I believe is the time we get to shape and mould the minds and bodies of our grand kids, to understand our children better, to see and feel happy about how well our children are shaping their lives..it is a revelation when I seethattheydont make the mistakes we made..they have learnt what not to do in life and in a marriage..that's very comforting..
If unfortunately , one cannot be adjusting and forgiving , it will be difficult to understand, connect to and reach out to our children as we grow older. No one really wants to hurt you or is deliberately disrespectful. It is in our perception of things, our belief of things. We have to be determined to be happy. We have to resolve and practice the art of tolerance , non judgment and non interference,,at the same time be as helpful as we can. I assure you , we will have the most glorious retired years, golden old age and the most doting children and grand children. We may however, gently chide or point out wrong deeds , no harm..but has to be gentle and without rancour or rage.Anger and bitterness are to be totally done away with..more prayers and meditation and exercise are the things to do. Eating less, sleeping more, cultivating good conversation,regular mild exercise and routine household chores will fill up the day..
Let's raise a toast to happy retirement.
