My conversation with my daughter this morning made me see the profoundity of the truth that women generally , world over are the ones to make all the adjustments and ironically enough never to be given the credit for all their sacrifices and compromises.I am talking about how ladies have to balance their careers and their domestic duties so other one does not encroach on the other or that one doesn't suffer because of the other. Now that is a difficult thing to do, daily! I would say that women are naturally inclined to and endowed with the patience, selflessness and stamina to ensure that they take a career and also manage their homes reasonably well. There may be slipups and hiccups in either once in a way.My husband would cry shameand say that women turn on their tear -tap before their bosses and get away with doing less work at office or enjoy greater priveleges like short ;eave etc etc because they are mothers, wives, sister etc etc...
It is rarely that men are willing to give credit to a woman who keeps a meticulously organised home, a scrupulously clean house and a clock-work precision in getting daily chores done around the house. All household chores, however monotonous or boring or repetitive have to be done daily and without giving excuses, even if mylady is ill or indisposed. Else the house will crumble. When it is done like that it is taken for granted andshe has evenraised her own bar and built up expectations of others!!!!!Men are quick to find fault whensomething is left undone. Try giving the man the charge of domestic chores for a day or two..He will flee before yuou know. Women are rarely shoddy or careless., They are more conscientious about finances, health and happiness in the family. There may be a few exceptions to this ofcourse.
At the work place women can be entrusted to with very serious and demanding jobs because they are rnot often distracted when working, tend to sit in one place and do a concentrated job. Men would like to take a walk, a puff, a tea etc more often then women. They may argue that they are more intelligent and can do the same job in lesser time. Some even may. But we are talking in general terms. When it comes to staying late at office to finsh a work, men are better off. Ladies have to rush to pick up their kids from school/creche/ grandparents' home . do errands. get grocery and keep a calm and xmiling face ready to greet the hubby when he arrives at the front door!She may even be very tired and would be grateful for help from him. Many days that is not possible and doesn't happen. I can give him the credit for being the prime bread winner. but even so, the innumerable work that the lady does besides going out to work more than offsets that advantage a man has. Why does a lady work? She is never given credit or appreciationwhen she tirelessly does domestic chores. Therefore she has to find fulfilment in working outside as well. That is doing double shift. In no way does it minimise her role at home.. The point I am trying to drive home is that, if only a man took household work seriously and began to think that it was worthwhile and that the lady is doing agreat service by keeping home and looking after him and his kids, then this balancing act can be avoided. I would reccommend that ladies stay at home and enjoy domestic bliss(?????) until children are old enough to take care fo themselves and then go for a career. For that employment opportunities must exist for a middleaged woman. It is happening in the UK and USA. Why not here? In one sense ,scurrying off to work immediately after marriage will never strengthen bonds of the couple and the travails will mount once a baby is born. The it will be a war of words as to how much each of them will do at home...The whole scenario seems to be unhealthy to me. Before I sign off, I appeal to men all around to appreciate their wives for all she does and reckon her contribution as paramount to the well being of the family....healthwise and wealthwise, emotionally and physically...Here's to a better understanding of women and their contribution, compromises and hardwork
It is rarely that men are willing to give credit to a woman who keeps a meticulously organised home, a scrupulously clean house and a clock-work precision in getting daily chores done around the house. All household chores, however monotonous or boring or repetitive have to be done daily and without giving excuses, even if mylady is ill or indisposed. Else the house will crumble. When it is done like that it is taken for granted andshe has evenraised her own bar and built up expectations of others!!!!!Men are quick to find fault whensomething is left undone. Try giving the man the charge of domestic chores for a day or two..He will flee before yuou know. Women are rarely shoddy or careless., They are more conscientious about finances, health and happiness in the family. There may be a few exceptions to this ofcourse.
At the work place women can be entrusted to with very serious and demanding jobs because they are rnot often distracted when working, tend to sit in one place and do a concentrated job. Men would like to take a walk, a puff, a tea etc more often then women. They may argue that they are more intelligent and can do the same job in lesser time. Some even may. But we are talking in general terms. When it comes to staying late at office to finsh a work, men are better off. Ladies have to rush to pick up their kids from school/creche/ grandparents' home . do errands. get grocery and keep a calm and xmiling face ready to greet the hubby when he arrives at the front door!She may even be very tired and would be grateful for help from him. Many days that is not possible and doesn't happen. I can give him the credit for being the prime bread winner. but even so, the innumerable work that the lady does besides going out to work more than offsets that advantage a man has. Why does a lady work? She is never given credit or appreciationwhen she tirelessly does domestic chores. Therefore she has to find fulfilment in working outside as well. That is doing double shift. In no way does it minimise her role at home.. The point I am trying to drive home is that, if only a man took household work seriously and began to think that it was worthwhile and that the lady is doing agreat service by keeping home and looking after him and his kids, then this balancing act can be avoided. I would reccommend that ladies stay at home and enjoy domestic bliss(?????) until children are old enough to take care fo themselves and then go for a career. For that employment opportunities must exist for a middleaged woman. It is happening in the UK and USA. Why not here? In one sense ,scurrying off to work immediately after marriage will never strengthen bonds of the couple and the travails will mount once a baby is born. The it will be a war of words as to how much each of them will do at home...The whole scenario seems to be unhealthy to me. Before I sign off, I appeal to men all around to appreciate their wives for all she does and reckon her contribution as paramount to the well being of the family....healthwise and wealthwise, emotionally and physically...Here's to a better understanding of women and their contribution, compromises and hardwork
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